23
May
Some days I just can’t do this job.
I want to write a post and whine. Just whine. Tell you how hard it is to be pregnant while caring for three small kids, tell you how often I’m still throwing up, tell you how much I hate the super-demanding stage of babyhood that my youngest is in right now, tell you too personal details about our schedule and how often I am utterly alone with these children for days at a time. I want to snivel and growl and whine and convince you all that things are just so much harder for me than for anybody else.
But I can’t write that post. I don’t even want to read that blog, let alone be responsible for it.
Still. I’m having a rotten day. How’s yours?
Karen
Some days I don’t write that post too.:
In the last week :
I have driven off in a hurry in the rain, late to an evening meet that I should have given up going to, but I just actually wanted to get away for 2 hours, only to never make it there because it turns out I didn’t know where the meeting was.
Bought the wrong type of batteries for son’s new baseball toy twice!
Went to store without my wallet. I’m a genius.
Alison
I have those days too, and I’m not even pregnant. Having small children is really a demanding job.
I hope you feel better about things soon.
chickadeee
mine is not much better as i’m newly pregnant and so nauseous. but my kids are older so i think you have it worse.
Elle
The last couple of weeks have been full of some rotten days–not because of pregnancy or even small children, but because of crushing interpersonal disasters that make you wonder why you even try, at all.
I do remember the days of mothering 3 under 3 and feeling alone, forsaken, and resentful. I also know that the only thing that got me through was the prayers of others on my behalf. So I promise you mine.
Minnesotamom
I actually posted about something similar…my whining baby after 3 days of being sick. But I’m not pregnant. I only have one child. And I can’t imagine being you and not taking the freedom now and again to whine on my blog. Know that we will all commiserate in some way or another and that we won’t stop coming by as a result.
JulieC
People (with older children!) used to tell me, “Enjoy these days! They go by so fast!” I wanted to kick them in the shins.
Parenting little kids is just hard, and having to parent and throw up at the same time just makes it worse. I don’t blame you for wanting to whine.
Prayers and sympathy, that’s all I can give you. Feel free to kick me in my virtual shins if it helps.
suburbancorrespondent
And all that bothers you? Really? Gosh, I can’t even imagine.
And if you can’t whine here, where can you whine? I say, go for it.
Sherri E.
Your bravery and fortitude astonish me. What whine? I didn’t read any whine.
suburbancorrespondent
The above comment was meant to sound empathetic. If it didn’t, I wrote it wrong.
Jennifer (Et Tu?)
It it wrong that I love posts like this?
Sometimes when I read blogs (which is my primary way of connecting with civilization at this point in my life) I get the impression that all the other mothers out there are breezing through their days, leading their gleeful children in carefully-structured educational activities while joyfully keeping their houses in perfect order. It is SO refreshing to hear this kind of honesty, and to know that I’m not the only one who has days like this.
I’m right there with ya. You’ll be in my prayers.
Melanie
Come to my house and whine. I would cherish every minute.
Maxime
I hate having those days. I had one of those days yesterday. It gets better…
Emily
I’m with Jen (Et Tu) - sometimes it is nice to know that the other mothers have these kinds of days, too! I’m currently pregnant and mothering two toddlers, so I have SOME idea of what you’re dealing with. Hang in there!!!
Dawn
I’m another one who doesn’t mind reading these posts because this is real life. I’m sorry that your having one of these days, I know them oh so well so you have my compassion and positive thoughts going your way.
Kelly @ Love Well
You are:
a. pregnant with #4
b. still throwing up (!!)
c. caring for 3 young children
d. resisting the urge to whine on your blog.
My dear, you are being too noble. We are mommy-bloggers, pardon the term. We understand the need to indulge in a little whine now and then.
You have my undying sympathy and admiration for surviving on a daily basis.
chaotic joy
Oh Veronica. HUGS to you. No one wants to read a blog that does this all the time. Everyone knows we all need it sometimes. It just lets us know you are human. Which is actually refreshing.
I am, without a doubt, the worst pregnant person on the planet. I am whiny and miserable the entire time. I am constantly amazed my dear husband didn’t leave me during one of my pregnancies.
If anyone can sympathize, I can. I think we all can. Sometimes it’s just plain awful. Cut yourself some slack.
Tonggu Momma
Veronica — I’m so sorry it’s difficult right now. I think we all have days like that. Hugs to you.
I can’t even say I know what you are going through (as I’ve never been pregnant with young children in the home), but I watched my sister just have her fourth child while her third was under two, and one of her oldest has SNs. And it is VERY HARD.
Again, hugs to you.
gretchen from lifenut
So sorry, Veronica. I think everyone understands and can sympathize.
Pieces
I so wish that I could be there. I could make you laugh. I’m not very funny on my blog but I usually can make people snicker in person.
I can’t even imagine how hard it is for you right now. The hardest times for me when my kids were little was The Loved was gone. You need help and a break. And the throwing up! So wearing and awful.
I appreciate your self-control in not turning your blog into a place of whining. But it is good to let the troubles out once in awhile. Thank you for sharing–I will be praying for you.
Thea
I’m only two weeks into this parenting a small child gig and my goodness! I want to write beautiful posts about the newness of life and junk, but I’m also so overwhelmed by the very basics of how to hold/change/feed/figure out a baby that I’ve ended up writing nothing. That’s how my day is.
And I suspect that you would find some clever and lovely way to vent that would make reading your posts a joy, anyway. I wouldn’t mind a bit.
Jill
I am not one of those women who loves being pregnant and glows. I am the one who hates it and pretty much complains the entire time. So I feel your need to complain.
My day…I just watched my 59 year old mother complete her first marathon today. So my day is pretty amazing. You can have some of mine
brother
Veronica,
In Afghanistan reading your blog is an easy way to feel at home so even a bad day for you is somehow comforting for me. Sorry you’re having a rough day. I understand feeling overwhelmed by your children. While they may never say thank you, your time and effort with them is not in vain.
brother
Jen
Every mom who’s ever wiped a snotty nose knows exactly what you’re going through. That first pregnancy and first infancy, you are astounded by how much work it is. And then you have another one, and can’t believe you were complaining about the difficulty of the first time–when you had only yourself to care for, not your pregnant self plus a kid or two or three also demanding your constant care and attention. Don’t beat yourself up too much for wanting to whine. It’s just hard sometimes. I hope you’re feeling better soon.
Genni
Sing with me… Momma (never) told me there’d be days like this, there’d (never) be days like this, there’d be days like this momma (never) said. Mainly because momma had only 2 children.
Melanie at Beanpaste
Motherhood: the toughest job you’ll ever love and also kind of despise and resent occasionally.
So, so sorry for the rough day. You have my sympathy, solidarity, and absolute best wishes.
Miscellaneous From Missy
I had a day like that this week. I’m glad to see from your next post that things got better.